FAQ
- What type of guest am I?
- Sadly, due to our tight budget not all guests are equal. Family and a small collection of friends have been invited to our ceremony and afternoon meal. A wider group of friends have been invited to join us from the evening and onwards into Sunday for our WedCamp.
- So when and where is this wedding thing happening again?
- In case you missed it, it’s Saturday 19th June, 2010 at Mill Laine Farm, Offham (near Lewes), East Sussex. The ceremony starts at 13:00 sharp, the evening party kicks off at 18:30. There’s a pre-wedding get together on the Friday for direct family and peeps from afar. It doesn’t stop on Saturday, many people are camping. On Sunday there will be a breakfast followed by WedCamp fun and activities and a BBQ bash for all on the Sunday. We’re hoping to keep going all the way through to the summer solstice in the early hours of Monday morning (so save up your holiday time!). Take a look at the Schedule for more detailed information on the dates and times, and Venue for more about the location.
- How do I RSVP?
- You can RSVP right here! Isn’t that convenient? Or you can just click on the link at the top of the page that says “RSVP” and enter your details and whether or not you are attending. If you could kindly RSVP by 30th April 2010 we would be extremely grateful, but the sooner the better. And seeing as you are already here, why don’t you do it now?
- I received my invitation and it is addressed to only me. Can I bring my best friend’s sister/my neighbour/the guy I met at a bar last week/my dentist?
- Get in touch! We tried to add the names of anyone who we knew was in a long-term relationship or living with someone. However, we are not perfect and may have overlooked something. Just call/email/tweet/message us!
- Will the wedding be child friendly?
- Of course! While we aren’t able to provide babysitting services or equipment like high chairs etc., we would love for you to bring the little ones along. There aren’t any big deep holes or ponds for them to fall into, but general supervision is of course recommended. Just let us know if there is anything we can do to make things easier, such as providing a little portion of chilli rather than a big one. To be boring, we would like to very politely ask that you be prepared to remove/restrain any infant contributions to the ceremony, especially of the loud vocal variety - think along these lines… We’re sure that there will be plenty of fun things to keep them occupied though, even if that is just playing silly games with balloons and dancing until they are exhausted!
- What should I wear?
- Anna’s wearing a long white dress, Jonathan’s wearing… not a toga. You can wear whatever you feel comfortable in, and whether that’s a fancy frock or a tuxedo, or jeans with cowboy boots, a checked shirt and a straw hat, then please go for it. However, we do ask you to bear in mind that this wedding is on a farm - there will be mud and games and running about, the throwing of wellies and the chance of rain, so please don’t wear clothes that you wouldn’t mind getting a little soggy, or that will make you too hot/cold/boring. Think summery dresses with flat shoes, or chinos and a shirt - the word is country, people!
- Once the party gets started in the evening, we would love it if you want to get into the swing of things and wear fancy dress! We’ve already had the threat of a Transformer…
- Should I bring a gift?
- It is of course rude to ask a guest to bring a gift, but if you would like to make a gesture then please take a look at the Gift List page using the link at the top. We will accept blank cheques made out to “Cash” and exotic holiday packages.
- I’m confused - why aren’t you getting married in a church?
- As we were already legally married in a civil ceremony in December, we are having a non-denominational wedding celebration ceremony outdoors at the farm on the Saturday, to share our commitment to each other with our loved ones. We wanted to make things as simple and inclusive and personal as we could, and this seemed like the best way to do it. As neither of us are of any quantifiable religious persuasion, we felt it would be hypocritical to get married in a formal place of worship, and we don’t believe that the people who manage to make a right old mess of collecting our rubbish (i.e. our local council) should be the only other body with the power to declare us married - we’re doing it our way! So there.
- Will there be booze? Cigars? Naked ladies?
- Yes. Maybe. Probably not, but who knows?
- And what about food?
- There will be a simple buffet meal (probably a pizza feast) for family and distant guests provided on the Friday night. If you are camping that night it is suggested that you provide your own breakfast for Saturday morning as there’s likely to be lots of flapping about going on at the barns before the ceremony. A cupcakes, cava & canpes will be provided at about 14:00 on the Saturday for ceremony guests. The main meal will be at 16:00, which will consist of a Peruvian quinoa salad starter, beef or vegetable chilli burritos for the main course and chocolate coffee pots (or ice cream for kiddies) for pudding. Once the partay guests arrive (which will be at about 18:30) and have settled down with a drink or two, an evening buffet of chips-and-dips style food will be provided for all at about 20:30 - we’ll need the energy to keep dancing all night long!
- On the Sunday, you will be able to purchase brunch from our on-site caterer (I hear he does a mean bacon sarnie), or you can provide your own food for the morning. At about 14:30 there will be a BBQ - we will provide buns and some side dishes, and any contributions of meat/meat substitutes, extra dishes and most importantly ALCOHOL will be very gratefully received! We will have a dedicated BBQ fridge in the barns for you to store meat etc.
- Please do let us know if you have any special dietary requirements or requests (e.g. for children’s meals) and we will do our best to cater to your needs.
- Should I bring confetti for the ceremony?
- Please don’t bring confetti - as the wedding is on a working farm we’d like to reduce our impact on the site, and many confettis contain artificial dyes and are not easily degradable. We’ll be providing dried rose petals for ceremony guests, so don’t worry, you’ll still be able to throw stuff at us!
- How the heck will I get there?
- There will be space for car parking on the farm for those of you who wish to drive. If you are using satnav the postcode is BN7 3QB. For all you public transporters out there, the nearest train station is Lewes, and there are taxis available at the station (or you can call 01273 483232 or 01273 656565).
- Is there anything else I should know?
- Check this wedsite every so often, as we will be updating it. Be sure to take a look at the various pages, request music to be played and ask us anything else you feel we forgot to tell you using the Contact page.
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